Interesting.

[ash48]

For those who have been passed over because of the way they look. Interesting realisation by Dustin Hoffman when preparing for Tootsie.

I mostly love hearing actors talk about performing and Dustin is a very thoughtful actor. I thought his epiphany was very honest (and sadly true).

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[el1ie.livejournal.com]

It's interesting that it's taken a man talking about this to grab people's attention, but celebrities do wield great power over us whether we're aware of it or not.

As one of the 'invisibles' I find it notable and surprising by some comments where I've seen this posted, that there are many still are unaware of what goes on, I've struggled all my life with it and I've come to disregard men's opinions of me. I got to 40 and threw in the towel and became determined to just be the me I am. What hurts most is when it comes from other women and it does - a lot. After a while the constant "suggestions" on what I should be doing to myself have become less and less helpful and far more annoying and hurtful. You can only take so much before you realise it comes down to how I should spend copious amounts of cash and/or risk my life under a surgeon's hand just to make other people more comfortable in my presence. And that? That's some shit talking.

People come in all shapes and sizes, we don't all conform to society's narrow image of beauty - especially now, when so much can be fabricated in a surgery or photoshop gallery, it's becoming almost obligatory to "fix" yourself and be always young and beautiful - shame really.

[ash48.livejournal.com]

It's interesting that it's taken a man talking about this to grab people's attention

Yes. I don't think he's saying anything that hasn't been said before or any thing new. I think what struck me was the way he said it. I think that deep, personal realization is more striking than the pure fact that good looking people have it easier in life.

And can I just say yes and thank you for your comments here. That pressure to be that narrow image is, I think, getting more and more heavy. I can't say with any certainty that that is true but from what I see my daughter being exposed to and what I see her "aspire" to is pretty frightening (because it's so unattainable). I often think I'm glad I'm not a teenager growing up now - the amount of on line images that they are bombarded with...

And yes...finding acceptance in yourself is one thing. Getting other people to accept that is another thing altogether.

xoxo